We do not mean Japanese, Chinese, Spanish, French, or English, but rather a language understood by all people anywhere in the world, young and old, men and women, we mean body language.
Communicate through body language:
As Yasser Himaya says in his book The Art of Body Language, it is: “a modern language of communication, and it relies on body expressions and terminology, and it is a science that studies methods of non-verbal communication.”
As a result of the connections between millions of neurons, there are three different realities in the human brain (the brain is the machine, while the mind is the function), which is a cognitive educational reality that allows logical operations to be performed, and a motor sensory reality that allows movements and the use of senses. , and a psychological and emotional reality or reality that allows feelings to be linked to events, and that man’s strength lies in his ability to link and use these three realities simultaneously and at the same time to issue a conscious action.
Mistakes that hinder communication through body language:
Among the mistakes of body language, as Khaled Al Awad says, positive body language is characterized by strength, and the negative non-verbal messages that it sends to others are usually excessive in strength, and take a direction opposite to what we want, so we must avoid the following:
Hesitant entry, drooping glances, chin tilts down, cold handshakes, crushing hands when shaking hands, fidgeting, sighing, yawning, head-scratching, lip biting, rubbing the back of the head or neck, narrowing eyes, raising eyebrows, looking at the other person over your glasses, crossing hands in front of the chest, rubbing the eyes, ears or the side of the nose.
The senses and the brain are affected by body language:
The face is never neutral, and as Yasser Hamaya classifies it, four rules control the features and gestures of the face, which is the lobe rule relative to the two hemispheres of the brain, the rule of identification with others, the sensory rule related to the senses, and the rule of the direction of movements.
In the lobe base, there are three important pieces of information, which is that mental intelligence is a raw material, feelings have a designated place in the brain, and all regions of the brain related to the learning process interact collectively with the stimuli of the human external environment, and the right lobe of the brain moves the left part of the body, and the left lobe of the brain moves the right part of the body.
And the rule of conformity with others, which is an exchange with others, is a gift in us from birth that enables us to adapt to others and using the rule of conformity with others, the individual can perceive others’ view of him through the sense of sight.
And the sensory rule, which is that the senses are represented in the features and gestures of the face and that the unconscious movements try to hinder the influence of external events on us, and this is whenever our mind tells us to (don’t hear), (don’t look), (don’t feel) (from the sense of touch), (don’t). She speaks) and the latter, for example, pushes us to close our lips, and almost all verbs (from the word verb for the people of the language) are linked to the five senses, and the small (accurate) movements in the face are nothing but a material translation of our feeling of the meaning of those verbs.
And the rule of the direction of movement, according to the psychological state, and be on an area not exceeding three square centimeters.
As Alan and Barbara Pease say in their book The Definitive Body Language Reference, what matters is how you sound when you say the words, not the words themselves. The sharpness of observation means being able to spot inconsistencies between a person’s words and their body language.
Seven out of ten people cross their left arm over their right when bending their arms, says Alan and Barbara Pease, and the cultural differences abound, but the basic body language signals are the same everywhere.
Different meanings of body language:
As Alan and Barbara Pease say, read the gestures in groups. Head scratching means uncertainty, but it’s also a sign of dandruff. When a person’s words contradict their body language, women ignore what’s being said. Look for harmony, and read the gestures in context.
And faking body language is easier with men than with women, because men generally do not read body language well, and a liar can only pretend for a short time, and modern man is worse at reading body signals than his ancestors because we are now distracted by words.
As Alan and Barbara Pease put it: “What is the difference between an observer and a hunter who follows prey?”
paper and pen.
Submissive dogs show their throats, while humans show their palms. When men lie, their body language can be clear. Women prefer to appear busy when they lie. Turning your palm from its direction up to its direction down changes the understanding of others completely, and the woman who shows signs of Extreme femininity in a serious business meeting loses her credibility. First encounters between men and women can fail because of bad handshakes. A natural smile causes distinctive wrinkles around the eyes. Insincere people only smile with their mouths. Science has proven that the more you smile, the more positive reactions others will have. Towards you, and when you fold your arms, your credibility is very low. In Japan, make sure that your shoes are completely clean and in good condition. Every time the Japanese bend down, he checks your shoes. If you are not sure how to deal politely with another person’s culture, ask the people of the country to know how things are.
And the best policy is always, to tell the truth, unless, of course, you are an extraordinarily good liar, as J. Jerome says.
And the long look can generate intimate feelings, and the use of the appropriate look gives credibility and allows doctors and hairdressers to enter our intimate area, and we always allow pets to do so, because they do not pose any threat, and shaking the foot is like the brain trying to escape from the current situation, and the open legs show the confidence of the man The closed one shows his reservation, the nodding of the head encourages cooperation and agreement and sitting directly facing the other creates a negative atmosphere, and it is not important what you say and the important thing is where you sit, and first impressions are like love at first sight in the business world.
The six secrets of body language:
As Alan and Barbara Pease say, the sixth secrets of attractive body language are the face. hands below your chin avoid crossing your arms or crossing your feet head movement nod three times when you speak nod your head when you listen keep your chin up keep eye contact maintain eye contact with others as much as everyone feels comfortable unless Looking at others is a cultural taboo, those who look at others gain more credibility than those who do not look, body position, lean forward while listening, be erect while speaking, personal space, stand at a distance from the other side that makes you feel comfortable, and if he moves backward, do not step You’re forward again, and mimicry. Mimic other people’s body language, in a subtle, subtle way.
