In every social event, there has always been that person who captivates everyone with his presence, and you may have come across on one occasion – such as weddings and parties – that girl whose smile lights up the place and prompts people to gather around her to talk to her, and you cannot help but feel attracted towards her. She may not be the prettiest woman at this party, but there is something about her that you don’t realize that makes her glamorous.
And soon you find yourself wondering: “Who is she? And how does she have this ability to attract both men and women towards her?”
The answer doesn’t lie in how well she chooses her clothes, or in her witty comments (although both are very important, too). Rather, the source of her attractiveness stems from her “body language”.
And you, too; Don’t you want to be the focus of everyone’s attention and capture their hearts? If you want to, then apply these 10 tips and you will be on the right track to becoming irresistible.
First: Have an open and relaxed body position
Whether you are standing, sitting, or walking; Correct posture not only makes you look attractive but also helps you look taller. If you’ve been in a slouched position for a long time, there are plenty of easy exercises to fix your posture. It is also helpful to observe yourself using a full-length mirror.
So sit, walk, and stand in front of that mirror for 5-10 minutes a day, until you reach the correct body position. This means:
- Head held high and relaxed.
- Shoulders pulled back.
- your belly in.
- Your knees are slightly bent.
Once you master this body position, you will find that you feel more comfortable and confident when facing people.
Second: smile from your heart
Your smile is one of your most powerful weapons to instantly become a likable person. A real smile is supposed to reach your eyes, and create those little wrinkles that light up your face. Which indicates that you are really happy. And nothing is more attractive than someone who smiles from the bottom of their heart. According to scientific studies, smiling reduces stress levels and can influence your level of success.
You may not believe what we are going to tell you, but you can improve your smile simply by practicing it daily. Stand in front of a mirror, take a deep breath in and hold it for a few seconds, and exhale slowly while smiling. You will notice that you feel more relaxed and that your smile looks real. So try this a few times until you are confident of your smile.
Third: skillfully imitate the simple movements of others
Mimicking (mirroring the movements of others) is a body language technique that successful people use to build relationships. And that, if done right, should make you more likable to others with minimal effort. Responding positively to people like us is part of our psychology. The baby’s bodily functions (such as the heartbeat) are synchronized with the mother’s bodily functions even before birth.
Good mimicry of other people’s movements begins with observing the other’s movements first. Like watching his gestures, the way he leans towards you, and the way he hugs his legs. So mimic these movements with your body to quickly build confidence. This method has proven its success many times in various experiments.
So at your next party, keep a close eye on the people. Mirror their movements to better communicate with any of them.
Fourth: Pat a quick pat on the shoulder or forearm
Never underestimate the power of a pat on the back or a gentle touch on the arm. Unlike words, these actions are widely understood and can convey more meaning. Like mimicry, these behaviors establish a relationship of familiarity with those you meet. Provided you don’t overdo it, of course. Never forget that. Just a light pat is enough, don’t prolong it.
Fifth: Maintain good eye contact
There is no doubt that eye contact is the most powerful body language arsenal in your arsenal. However, doing it wrong will make you look suspicious. So combine this step with step two; That is, smile while making eye contact, to make yourself irresistible. All you need is ten seconds, which is plenty of time before you look away. Otherwise, it will irritate the person and make him feel uncomfortable.
Sixth: Turn your entire body towards the other person
This process is called the “big baby pivot,” and it involves turning your entire body toward the other person. This trick gets its name from the way most people put all their attention on their children. When you get to know someone, be sure to give them your full attention by turning your body towards them.
It sends a message that he’s special to you and that you care about him. Genuine concern for others makes you irresistible.
Seventh: Use clear hand signals
The usual handshake that we practice daily was used in the past to prove that a person is not hiding any weapons. That’s why we get suspicious when people don’t show their hands. With that in mind, use hand gestures to make yourself the most visible person in the space you are in.
When speaking to a crowd, use certain hand gestures to create an effect. Here are some of them:
- Use your fingers when making several points.
- A clenched fist means that you are firm in what you say.
- Make a wide motion with both hands to mean “everything.”
- Raise your hand to your chest when you talk about personal experience.
Consider the type of your audience when you use your hand motions. Keep in mind that a single movement can differ drastically from culture to culture, so use that with caution!
Eighth: stop talking for a few seconds
This is an unnoticed part of body language, but it is very effective. You can make quick pauses during talks and speeches when:
- You asked a difficult or personal question (this gives you time to think of a good answer).
- When you want to make a big impact (pausing between sentences is a sign that the time for big news is coming).
- If you want to create an air of mystery (especially when that downtime is coupled with a little smile).
Pauses are also great when used right before smiling. As it shows you the appearance of a person who does not give up easily.
Ninth: Nod your head to show that you are confident in your opinion
According to one study, nodding doesn’t necessarily mean you agree with what you’re hearing. Rather, this behavior reinforces the power of a pre-existing idea. A nod of your head at someone speaking in a meeting, for example, reinforces what that person is saying.
This creates a kind of connection between the two of you, even if you don’t agree with everything he says. It is also a sign that you are paying attention to what he is talking about.
Tenth: Avoid fidgeting
Do you get excited during an important event? Or need to calm your nerves before meeting with clients? If you want to be irresistible, one of the most important things you should avoid is feeling anxious.
If you have a habit of rubbing your fingers when you’re anxious, others may interpret that as an insecure person. So create an attractive aura for yourself by appearing confident and relaxed.
If you’re still concerned, be sure to bring something familiar to you, like a favorite pen or necklace. These are called comfort objects. According to experts, carrying something you associate with good memories will help reduce your anxiety.
Look at it or hold it in your hand for a few seconds to remind you that everything will be fine. Then, be yourself, be that irresistible person.